Figuratively speaking, I have fallen on my face several times in my life. I mean, just a few years ago I took a leap of faith into the unknown. I quit my corporate job, rented out my house, and moved in with my parents so I could pursue my business full time. And well, a year into that I was $50k in debt, depressed and still living with my parents.. at 31 years old. It wasn’t my finest moment. In fact, it really did feel like a big fall, flat on my face. Oh, and the time I was asked to give a speech at my high school graduation and I COMPLETELY bombed it. To this day, that is still the most embarrassing moment of my life. Face plant.
But this past weekend, I managed to literally fall on my face. No joke, I fell on the sidewalk directly on my face. The entire left side of my face was swollen, scraped, bleeding… fat lip and all. I spent most of Saturday icing my face and applying Neosporin. I was pretty bummed. I had lots of plans that involved the opposite of moping around with a face scab.
Also, it is in my nature to go to the dark side pretty fast. I seem to get overly sad or depressed pretty fast. I think it’s because I have mastered self-judgment. With that said, in the past this experience could very well have spiraled me into a dark place. But, I dug deep and chose to take a different path.
Whether you fall on your face figuratively or quite literally, you always get to pick the steps you take following your face plant. Here are a few things that have worked for me:
- It’s ok. Take some time to reflect on what your learned from the experience, and leave the self-judgment at the door. (Or in my case, the sidewalk)
- It took courage. At least you tried. Don’t take that lightly, but also, don’t wade around in it. Realize you tried something courageous, pat yourself of the back and then move on. I think one of our biggest set-backs, or blocks can be hanging around in our emotions, defending them to the death.
- Do it again. Success doesn’t happen over night. An old friend just sent me an email newsletter for their new real estate business and it told the story about a man who grew up during The Great Depression. He lost his family at age 14, went on to have 5-10 odd jobs and then at the age of 38 finally found something he was amazing at. He started the billion dollar company called Williams-Sonoma. It doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 38 or 52. You’re still alive. Keep going.
- Appreciate where you are. This was one of the biggest lessons I learned from my quitting my comfy corporate job a few years back. I was looking so much at the big picture that I forgot to look at the details. And by details I mean, having enough money to eat. I was so focused on rebelling against the man and starting something amazing that I face planted. I still have the big picture, start something that matters mentality and I have a new appreciation for the present. When you are present and grateful for where you are, you will know when you are ready to make the leap into the unknown. You will be able to do it with ease and grace.
- Remember you have a mind of your own. Don’t lie… do you ever have those hypothetical conversations with people who are not there? I’m talking about the ones where you are imagining how a conversation will go before it even happens, and you are acting it out in your car on your way to a meeting? For me, it’s usually negative. I’m pissed off, defensive, and stressed out before anything has even happened. And 100% of the time, that made up conversation never happens in real life. Want to know why? Because you made it up in your mind, it’s not real. Those situations, that most of us have at least daily spread into other areas of our live. Like, not starting something creative because we are sure we already know that people will not like it. Not true. Made up reality. Start recognizing when your mind is making up weird shit that isn’t real and then stop it.
Also, I would recommend not literally falling on your face. Its hurts.